Sexy Singles vs. Smug Marrieds
15 January 2005, 23:26
Never underestimate the power of a good girls night out.
My message to the Sexy Singles out there – if you go for a girls night out, for the love of god, invite your Smug Married chick friends. They may actually enjoy time away from their husbands (noooooooooo!!!).
I love being married, but every chick needs time away from the love of her life to stay sane.
So when my old (by tenure, not age) friend from Bris Vegas, Jacqui, was down in Melbourne last week, we caught up for drinks at Polly in Fitzroy.
One thing about Jacqui, she has this amazing ability to make me yearn for the natsukashii. We’ve had our ups and downs, and haven’t really been in contact in the last 4 or so years. No falling out, just a bit of out of sight, out of mind and a healthy dose of being sucked into the vortex that is Japan.
Her memory is amazing. I thought mine was good, but by god, she remembered that 10 years ago, 3 guys I met in quick succession in Canada were born on the same day – August 8. That is serious. And it is an unfortunate coincidence that for a long time there, all my boyfriends/flings I met through her, so she has some awesome material for a rampant reminiscing session. Which is my guiltiest of pleasures.
Most of our friends are swimming in the heady pool of happy coupledom and it seems like all my single girlie friends have simply dropped off the face of the earth. So 4 hours over cocktails with Jacqui and her friend Tracey, was salve for the soul. Time for conversations that husband/boyfriends should not be privy to or would have no interest in.
It’s a pity that sometimes there’s a mentality of if you’re in a couple, you hang out in the Couples Only club and if you’re single you have a posse of single girls or guys that get together. I’ve been guilty of running through a mental list of couples when arranging a dinner party and forgetting about my single friends (which, unfortunately, are now few and far between) or learning that my single friends are not all that interested in hanging out with a bunch of couples.
It reminds me of that Joe Jackson song:
“Happy loving couples make it look so easy
Happy loving couples always talk so kind
Until the time that I can do my dancing with a partner
Those happy couples ain’t no friends of mine…”
Permanent Link | - As a Singleton in an increasingly smug peer group, I'm still very happy hang with my married friends. However, when the Smugs start treating my lifestyle as some kind of crazy novelty... grrrr! Singledom is a normal and valid way to exist! PS I know *you* know that, Kinki...
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